What To Say: To A Cancer Survivor

What to say So many people have said to me, “You look fantastic!”

Why focus on how I look? You probably have little idea about my quality of life compromises that you cannot see on the outside. For me, I had bilateral vocal chord polyps and nodules, basal cell carcinoma in my radiated field, ringing in my ears, periodontal disease, numerous health scares and tests, and the list goes on -things you cannot possibly know from how I look.

It’s better to say, “It’s so great to see you.” This suggests you have considered that maybe you would not see me again, which was a real possibility in my case. It acknowledges what I may have gone through rather than diminish it.

I love this quote: ‘Illness does not DETERMINE who we are, it REVEALS who we are.’ (Grace Paley)

To a cancer survivor or someone who has been through a life-altering event: a few suggestions on what to say:

“Your illness gives me pause for self-reflection”

“Your courage gives me strength.”

“You have given me new-found wisdom.”

“It’s a privilege to know you.”

“I am focussing on gratitude, thanks to you.”

These words feel empowering. You are saying on some level that I have left a footprint, a legacy on how to live. I’m comforted knowing that my suffering did not go unnoticed or unappreciated. That is powerful. That would make my day!

What other statements can you add to this list?

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By | 2016-10-14T15:18:13+00:00 March 1st, 2015|Making Life Meaningful, Survivorship, Talk for Hope|0 Comments

About the Author:

Eva Grayzel, a nationally recognized Master Storyteller and performance artist, was diagnosed at age 33 with stage IV oral cancer and given a 15% chance of survival. After regaining her deep vibrant voice, Eva applied her stage skills to communicate the depth of her experience in a unique and powerful way. For over a decade, Eva has captivated dental professionals worldwide using her story as a catalyst for change. She performed ‘Tongue-Tied’ Off-Broadway in New York City to a sold-out audience. A champion for early detection, Eva founded the Six-Step Screening™ oral cancer awareness campaign, for which she was recognized by the American Academy of Oral Medicine. She is the author of ‘Mr. C Plays Hide & Seek’ and ‘Mr. C the Globetrotter.’ In 2017, she created ‘My Story Legacy,’ a creative format to document family stories, life values and wisdom for future generations.

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