On the auspicious and final day of radiation treatment, I left the treacherous terrain behind me and settled onto the road back to the rest of my life. Leaning on my husband’s strength, we walked at a slow pace to the car. He opened the door for me as he always did since the day we met. He checked to be sure my seat belt was secure, kissed my cheek and gently closed the door so as not to add to the cacophony endured during treatment.
For those few silent seconds as he walked around the car, I let the enormity of the moment wash over me, soaking in the realization of the milestone attained: I survived the treatments. Whether or not I had won the battle, remained to be seen.
When I smiled over at him, I noticed we weren’t taking the regular route home. In as few words as possible…
(Here is the YouTube link to Part 4 Keynote Speaker Soundbite, also embedded below)
…I asked, Where’re you going?”
“We are going to celebrate!” he replied excitedly.
Using my hoarse radiated voice, like a delicate instrument stripped of its melody, I struggled with the notes but emphatically said, “Take me home.”
“No,” he persisted . “Your whole life you’ve dreamed of driving a convertible. Today, your dream will come true. Pick the color and I’ll take you home.” I had no energy to argue!
He pulled into a Mercedes dealership and eagerly showed me the car he had been researching for weeks. “It’s the safest on the market. It has rollover bars, a soft roof that matches the color of the car…” he went on about the features, but I couldn’t handle more than picking a color. I chose green. The sign of rebirth, of new beginnings.
Back in the car heading home, he suggested we order a personalized license plate. I didn’t have to think long about what I wanted it to read. A broadway tune from Fiddler on the Roof instantly came to mind: To Life. Yes, that is what this car represents, life in all its forms.It took me years to get used to driving around in such a fancy car. My husband would have liked it for himself, but he gave it to me. This gesture laid bare all the emotion he held in his heart. Over the years, I grew so naturally comfortable in that car, every time I got in, it was like greeting an old friend wondering what adventure we would go on next. As I began to fully accept the fact the treatment worked, this car became a symbol of my triumph. It almost became part of my identity. To Life!
As a Motivational Speaker and Master Storyteller, I’m always looking for new opportunities to share my inspirational messages.Your suggestions are welcome! This is Part 4 of 9 in my soundbite series from a keynote presentation in Brighton, UK.
Catch up and view past posts:
Part 1: Music Delivers Joy
Part 2: Owning My Scars
Part 3: Hair Complex
Part 5 coming soon!
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So beautiful! Thank you for sharing this story. Brings tears to my eyes. Love you both! Beautiful souls.
What goes around comes around. Thank you for your love.
How wonderful! Great photo, Eva, with another moving piece marking your triumph and amazing attitude.
Thanks Marta!! I really enjoy the process of writing, and it’s a real process!
Eva, I have had the pleasure of hearing you speak in person and meeting you back in 2014! You are such an inspiration in many ways! I loved reading this story :).
Rebecca, Thank you for taking the time to write. I get as much out of speaking as you do – it’s a form of therapy. It makes everything I went through have a deeper purpose.
I remember all of this quite well. What a summer it was. Not only did I help Kenny take of the kids but helped him take care of you. Some days I don’t know how you did it but you did! It was a hard and emotional summer but wouldn’t changed it for the world. It made me who I am today and I am grateful for that!
Shera, what a beautiful testimony. You went through it with us and it wasn’t a pretty picture, but there is much to learn from overcoming challenges. It’s not what you go through (cause we all will have life obstacles) it’s how you cope with it where the hard lessons are learned. Thank you for your love.
I am loving your story, what an amazing husband.❤️
Some men express their love in gifts. It’s not my love language, but the car has really had staying power!
Beautiful story. You are a very lucky lady and I hope we get to hear this story in another 20 some years. Thanks for sharing.
Cheers to life
Aw – Thanks Ag! The challenging times in life, make the sweet times, sweeter!
Beautiful story. Wonderful husband. A real keeper
Thanks. I think he would have liked the car for himself, but he gave it to me. Sweet eh?
What a beautiful story of love, perseverance, gratitude and hope! I’m still amazed you had any voice left at the end of treatment.
Here’s To Life!
Ed, treatment effects everyone differently. Right? Just as every cancer is different. I feel blessed and I’m trying to use my voice to make a difference.
Oh Eva, I didn’t know about this…Ken is a great guy! I love your stories…your zest for life is so well articulated through your storytelling!!
Thank you Laureen. Marriage is a work in progress, a process. Sometimes, it takes something huge to see the real person behind all the resent so easy to feel.
What a wonderful story, Eva! Ken is so thoughtful. I love your dancing videos too! ❣️
Hi Claire, I didn’t know you see my dancing videos….try to have some fun during these social-distancing times. Say hi to Nigel!
This is soooo awesome!!! Her story is amazing! Eva is an extraordinary woman and overcomer with energy to spare! If you doubt this just catch her on the dance floor! She will not disappoint! She is an inspiring individual to all of us
Not everyone knows how nuts I am about dancing! Writing has replaced my dancing energy for the time being. Thanks Cynthia!
Beautiful story Eva! Wonderful husband! I never heard this story – knew of your license plate-To Life!!!!
What would we do without our spouse and our family? We are blessed.
Brenda Tomlinson
I could have never gone through the devastating effects of treatment for oral cancer without a support network. My primary caregivers: my husband and mother. And, all my friends. I know it’s the same for you. Yes, how lucky we are!
Beautiful testimony of LOVE and Live Your Life’s Dream, every day!
Thank you Dawn. Sometimes, we need a reminder and another!
Two years ago, I was blessed to hear Eva Grayzel “The Storyteller.” What I expected was another boring lecture on cancer. What I got was so much more! Eva kept me in my seat. Her story made me laugh… and cry. More importantly, I learned to make sure my hygienist does an oral exam every time; I learned to trust my instincts. I could go on, but the most important thing she taught me was to appreciate life! Live it! If you haven’t heard Eva’s story, what are you waiting for?
Alex, what a testimony! Thank you. Keep laughing and living life to its fullest!
I absolutely love this story. Thank you for sharing it. I miss you!
Hi Elizabeth! Thanks for taking the time to read and share a comment. I’m curious why you chose this last story over the other three 🙂 Miss you, too!!