A Parent Dies; The Spouse Gets Cancer

A friend shared that she can’t wait to get 2010 out of the way because her Dad died in August, and the day after the week of mourning, her Mom was diagnosed with lung cancer.  What do you say?

Here is what I wrote to her:

Sounds like your Mom and Dad were connected in more ways than by a marriage certificate.  A deep emotional connection does that kind of thing when one is sick or dies, the other suffers with illness.  In a way, it should be comforting to know that they had something that is hard to come by today.  I feel sad for her and you on the one hand, and then, I’m touched on the other.  Imagine the world if we all had that!

Keep remembering your Dad for her. She will need the comfort of his memory to make it through all the treatments.  Subconsciously, she will hurt more if she thinks HE will be forgotten, because then it will scare her that SHE might be forgotten when her time comes.
Just some thoughts I had myself during that difficult time.
With love,
Eva

By | 2015-01-15T16:13:50+00:00 December 30th, 2010|Making Life Meaningful, Survivorship|0 Comments

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Nationally recognized Master Storyteller Eva Grayzel, shows her audiences how to bring new business strategies to life through the power of storytelling: compelling stories to communicate the company message, role-playing stories to build teams and human stories to generate passion.  An expert on interactive storytelling techniques with 25 years’ experience, Eva’s engaging keynotes, training workshops and corporate retreats are custom-tailored to your organization.  After surviving a shocking diagnosis of late stage tongue cancer, Eva broadened her audience base speaking about the patient’s experience.  When Eva starts speaking, audiences stop looking at the clock. Her powerful survivorship story and her professional training as a performer allows her to deliver mesmerizing programs, actively engaging each member of the audience professionally and personally.  Eva is the author of ‘You Are Not Alone: Families Touched By Cancer,’ and ‘Mr. C Plays Hide & Seek.’

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